More Like the Father

Imagine if you could gather a bunch of guys from all walks of life who had a great fathering experience and spend a few hours with them learning about the practical things that their fathers did.

That is exactly what More Like the Father will do for you. It will provide you with wisdom from sons of great fathers and set you on a path to build a great fatherhood legacy of your own.

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“I think everybody agrees with the significance of the male role model in society and in the family unit. Anything that helps to strengthen families helps to strengthen the wider community

Rob Garrett is one of the many great men in his church. He serves as a dedicated Christian volunteer and is highly regarded by staff members and guest ministry alike.

Writing a book about parenting and fatherhood is a large task and requires personal experience and a great grasp on the topic.

It won’t take you very many pages to realise that Rob has been part of an amazing legacy, has a great biblical understanding and writes in a way that fives all of us hope for a better future.

This book is easy to read and is filled with many personal stories from other fathers to show how to put these ideas into practice.

My prayer is that you would be inspired to take the next steps necessary to become all God desires for you in parenting and fatherhood.”

Joel A’Bell – Lead Pastor, Revitalise Church  

“I recall my conversation with Robert about the men’s response when I asked the conference delegates ‘who would say they don’t want to be like their father’

Robert’s comments about why he hadn’t lifted his hand that day were as inspiring to me as those that did. Something happened in Robert’s heart over that weekend and this book is the result of that.

This book is a celebration of all who instead of saying like me ‘I Am Not My Father’, want to say I am my fathers biggest fan.

Well done Robert and may many be blessed and helped through this great book.”

Paul Scanlon – International Leadership & Communication coach

This is a book that boldly chronicles the stories of men who have had healthy, functional fatherhood role models. Men are speaking out and sharing vulnerably about their lived experiences regarding one of their most intimate relationships. The relationship between a father and son when lived well changes families, possibly communities and even further. A great read.

Excerpt from More Like the Father


I have a number of heroes in the faith-men and women who are changing the face of the contemporary church across the globe. One such hero is Pastor Paul Scanlon, founder of Abundant Life Church England, who is one of the greatest teachers and communicators of our generation.

Late in 2007, Paul was in Australia to speak at a Men’s Conference. During that conference, Paul launched his incredibly powerful book I am not my Father.

The book is largely autobiographical as Paul tells the story of his own dysfunctional experience of being fathered, and how he left home at sixteen to get married. By the age of twenty, unhappy with life and married with three young children, Pual had an epiphany moment where he realised that history was repeating itself and he was becoming just like his father.

The book goes on to explain that the forces of generational momentum are so strongly stacked against us that unless we make a conscious effort to make a defiant stand and say, “I am not my father’, we are likely to repeat the mistakes of our fathers and their fathers before them.

After introducing his message, Paul asked the five thousand delegates: ‘Who, after considering how you were fathered, would say ‘Ia . not my father?’ Somewhere between sixty to seventy percent of the men raised their hands, causing Paul to remark, “It’s incredible, that whenever I ask that question to groups of me all over the world, the response is always the same-there are never less than sixty percent of men who raise their hands.”